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  Healthy relationships allow for individuality, bring out the best in both people, and invite personal growth. Choose the specific ideas or techniques presented here that will be most helpful to you. Getting close?developing meaningful relationships is a concern for all of us. Getting close to others, sharing our joys, sorrows, needs, wants, affections, and excitements is risky business. Rewards for conquering our fears of getting close?If we learn to communicat effectively with others and are willing to risk sharing our own feelings and respect other's feelings, many rewards will await us as we learn to get close to another person. The art of communication :When people are asked what the most important ingredients in a relationship are, communication almost always is on the list. Yet we rarely are taught HOW to communicate effectively. Communication with others boils down to either expressing ourselves or responding to someone else. Yet the methods for doing each are quite different. Expressing ourselves :When you are stating an opinion, making an observation, or expressing a feeling, the most appropriate format to use is called an "I-statement." You may even hopefully be already using them Responding to others: When other people are expressing themselves, it is not appropriate to use I-statements when responding. A more effective technique is called "Reflection." Reflection is saying back, in your own words, the content and/or feeling of what the other person just said. Reflection requires us to listen very carefully to what the other person is actually saying. Yet we also do NOT have to be right in identifying the emotion or reason we hear because the speaker will automatically clarify it for us (and sometimes for him/her in the process). Fighting fairly :A major stumbling block in any relationship is settling disagreements, which often reduce to emotional shouting matches rather than caring problem-solving. Basic ground rules for effectively facing conflict in a relationship include: Maintain a spirit of good will - remember: you care about this person. Avoid attacking one another - discuss behavior, not personalities. Share your feelings - explore and discuss them. Focus on the present - past dissapointments cannot be changed. Concentrate on here and now.   These strategies can help you establish an atmosphere of cooperative problem-solving. If you feel the relationship has deteriorated to a point where these methods can't be tried, you may want to consider a neutral, non-judgemental third party to mediate the discussions. Leading eBooks Company Click to find more about Healthy Relationship   You can read also generic keflex